Supporting Your Spouse in Recovery
Supporting Your Spouse in Recovery As the wife of an addict, it’s easy to think the problem is the man standing next to you. After all, what brought you to therapy was most likely his addiction – his problem. Making the decision to go to therapy with him is a wonderful first step in supporting his recovery, but it’s only the first step. Supporting your husband’s recovery ultimately means finding recovery yourself. When I started going to therapy with my husband, I went with the … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Fear of Recovery, marriage, Overcoming Shame, Pornography Addiction, Pornography Recovery, Relationships, Sexual Addiction, Uncategorized
Tools for a Transparent Marriage
Transparency in Marriage: Two Tools Transparency within marriage is an essential component of gaining recovery from pornography addiction and codependence. It's necessary in the process of healing the marriage relationship, as well. However, stepping up to a high level of transparency can be a difficult process, especially when you’re not used to being open and honest with one another. For me (a woman in recovery) and my husband, it was a process of finding our happy-medium. At first it … [Read More...]
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Pornography is Dangerous to Children
Pornography is Dangerous For Children Pornography is addicting. It destroys families. It costs people their emotional, physical, and spiritual well-beings. As an addiction therapist that specializes in pornography addiction I see the destruction that pornography causes on a daily basis. Spouses traumatized, families torn apart, fathers feeling hopeless and stuck. Like most addictive substances pornography usually entangles it’s victims at a very young age. With the advent of the … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Children, Fear of Recovery, Pornography Addiction, Pornography Recovery, Sexual Addiction, Uncategorized
Enough Feeling Not Enough
Overcoming the Shame of Pornography Shame is much different than guilt. Shame is a feeling of despair that tells you that you are flawed at your core. It’s unbearable and insurmountable. It’s like looking directly at the sun. It hurts so we hide from it. Guilt is a healthy emotion that reminds you that you did something against your values. Guilt says “you did something wrong”, shame says “you are wrong” “you are unworthy of God’s love”. Shame messages or … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Overcoming Shame, Pornography Recovery
Protecting Children from Pornography
What You Need to Protect Your Children From Pornography Pornography is everywhere. Most people reading this article have a little device in their pocket right now that can download pornography. It’s in our homes, schools and work places. For the most part it’s free. Pornography is as addictive as methamphetamine, and equally destructive. Yet because of the conveniences of technology we allow the possibility of it into our homes. Due to its affordability and accessibility we must change … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Children, Pornography Addiction
Extinguishing The Fear
Breaking Free From the Fear Cycle Support for Wives of Pornography Addicts The soft glow of an oil lamp just turned into a raging fire in your home! It’s been knocked over by the person you trusted most. The fire is roaring and the flames are terrifying. Thoughts come “the house is burning down!”, “I’m going to die”, or “my family is going to get hurt”. In an attempt to control the fire you try to cover it with a blanket and pour water on it. With each attempt to kill the fire … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Fear of Recovery, Pornography Addiction, Pornography Recovery, Trust Tagged With: Addiction, Pornography, Sex, Sexual Addiction
The Trust Bucket
Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship Damaged by Sexual/Pornography Addiction “Why won’t she trust me now!?” “What does it take!?” “What else can I do?” These are common words spoken by an addict who has lost the trust of their spouse due to a sex/pornography addiction. What the addict fails to realize is how deeply wounded their spouse is by the trauma that the addictive behaviors have caused. Some addicts believe going to a few therapy sessions, reading a book or two, and saying … [Read More...]
Filed Under: Addiction Hope and Recovery, Pornography Addiction, Pornography Recovery, Sexual Addiction, Trust
